Friendship is one of the most important things in life. Friendship is something that cannot be bought or sold. It happens naturally between people that have something in common, feel similar to each other in a certain way and like being together. Some kind of shared interest or similar sense of humour is also important. Having something to talk about and to laugh about keeps people together. Friends can be of any age, of either sex, and of any nationality. It is even possible, although difficult, to make friends with people with whom you don’t have a common language.
One of the important factors is keeping up communication: how often you can see your friends, whether you are prepared to change your plans for them, to be with them and help them if they are in trouble. It’s possible, of course, to have friends that you don’t meet so often. Sometimes when you can’t meet very often, for instance, if a friend lives in another country, the only way to keep contact may be by telephoning occasionally or writing to each other. I’ve got quite a lot of friends who I have not seen for years. But when we do get together, it’s just like we were never apart. However, it all depends on people, because for many people friendship becomes weaker when there is a large distance between them and their friends. They feel that in order to keep friendship strong it’s important to be there, to live in close vicinity to each other and to be able to meet regularly. As for me, I spend a lot of my time traveling and I’m really used to not seeing my friends for a long period of time. Nevertheless, I still feel a deep connection with them through the time we spent together and the experience we have in common.
Just recently four of my friends, who were on their way to India, came to stay for a few days, and it was like a breath of fresh air to see them. We had two or three days together, a really fun-filled and exciting time. They had never been to Budapest before, so I could show them my favourite places here. The last night before they left we stayed up until 4 or 5 in the morning, just talking about old times and our plans. My new friends got on very well with them. It’s so nice when different friends of mine become friends themselves.
For some reason childhood impressions of friendship are very strong and this friendship often lasts into adulthood. I am still in touch with some friends from my early childhood, and even if they are far away from here, we try to keep in contact by writing or telephoning. There is something special about old friends; maybe that over a long time trust builds up. Even if an old friend does something wrong or selfish or is in a bad mood, you are able to be patient, to understand and to forgive him. Forgiveness and tolerance are important for long-standing friendships. We’re all human and we all make mistakes, and it’s very important to realize this about other people.
From my experience, friends are often people you feel something special about from the first moment when you meet. All of the very strong friendships that have developed in my life started very quickly. But sometimes I find it very difficult to make friends with some people, even if we have common interests. For no evident reason, I feel some communication blocks with some people, while there are others who I can be completely myself with.
In conclusion, I’d like to add that it is important never to betray friends, to keep your word when you promise to do something. If a friend is in trouble you should be prepared to put yourself out to help him. They say that a friend in need is a friend indeed. It is also important to feel that the other person is your equal. There is a saying that real communication occurs only between equals and I really believe this to be so.
- to have something in common – иметь что-то общее
- similar – похожий
- in a certain way – в некотором отношении, некоторым образом
- to share – делить, иметь что-то общее
- shared – общий
- sense of humour – чувство юмора
- to make friends – подружиться
- to keep up communication – поддерживать общение
- for instance – for example
- occasionally – изредка, от случая к случаю
- to get together – собираться
- to be apart – в разлуке
- weak – слабый
- in close vicinity – поблизости
- to be used to doing – привыкнуть
- fun-filled – веселый
- exciting – волнующий, увлекательный
- to stay up – не ложиться спать
- to get on with – ладить
- impression – впечатление
- to last – длиться, сохраняться
- adulthood – взрослая жизнь
- to be in touch – поддерживать отношения
- trust – доверие
- selfish – эгоистичный
- to be in a bad mood – быть в плохом настроении
- patient – терпеливый
- to forgive – прощать
- forgiveness – умение прощать
- tolerance – терпимость
- to realize – осознавать
- special – особенный
- for no evident reason – без какой-либо явной причины
- in conclusion – в заключение
- to betray – предавать
- to keep your word – держать слово
- to put yourself out – выкладываться, делать все возможное
- a friend in need is a friend indeed – друг познается в беде
Quotations about friendship:
Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the
doubling of our joy and the dividing of our grief. (to abate - уменьшить, misery
- невзгоды , to double - удваивать, grief - горе)
Marcus Tullius Cicero
In times of prosperity friends will be plenty; in time
of adversity not one in twenty. (prosperity - процветание, plenty - много,
adversity - бедствие)
If I had to choose between betraying my country and
betraying my friend, I hope I should have the guts to betray my country. (to
betray - предавать, to have the guts – иметь мужество)
A friend is one who knows all about you and likes you
anyway. (anyway – все равно)
Christi Mary Warner
You can make more friends in two months by becoming
really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get
other people interested in you.
True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is
seldom known until it is lost. (sound health – хорошее здоровье)
Charles Caleb Colton
Friendship is a plant of slow growth… (growth -
No man can be happy without a friend, nor be sure of his
friend until he is unhappy.
You can hardly make a friend in a year, but you can
easily offend one in an hour. (to offend - обижать)
The only way to have a friend is to be one.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
A friend is one before whom I may think aloud. (aloud -
Ralph Waldo Emerson
A friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to
Friendship with oneself is all important because without
it one cannot be friends with anybody else in the world.